Those who spend [in Allâh’s Cause – deeds of charity, alms, etc.] in prosperity and in adversity, who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily, Allâh loves Al-Muhsinûn (the gooddoers).
( The Noble Qur’an – Al-‘Imran 3:134 )
A man said to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), “Counsel me,” so he (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “Do not become angry.” The man repeated [his request for counsel] several times, and [each time] he (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “Do not become angry.” It was related by al-Bukhari and Muslim.
Source: ( Sahih Bukhari )
Nafs – Do not get Angry
One of the ways that is easy for shaitan (the cursed one) to gain access to us is through anger. Anger is part of the Nafs (ego, evil-self, selfish soul etc..), and it should therefore be eliminated, if not then it should be under control. Getting angry is like consuming fire inside the body, if it’s not kept under control, it can cause a lot of damage to a person, it can affect his or her life, and it can have an impact on others as well. Anger is the door that leads to many evils.
Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) advise us not get angry and told us what to do in case we get angry:
1. He/she should say “A’udhu billahi minash shaitanir rajim أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم (I seek Refuge with Allah from Satan)
2. while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down.
3. He/she should perform ablution
Narated By Sulaiman bin Surd : While I was sitting in the company of the Prophet, two men abused each other and the face of one of them became red with anger, and his jugular veins swelled (i.e. he became furious). On that the Prophet said, “I know a word, the saying of which will cause him to relax, if he does say it. If he says: ‘A’udhu billahi minash shaitanir rajim أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم (I seek Refuge with Allah from Satan).’ then all is anger will go away.” Some body said to him, “The Prophet has said, ‘Seek refuge with Allah from Satan.”‘ The angry man said, “Am I mad?”
Sahih Bukhari , Book 054, Hadith 502
Narated By AbuDharr : The Apostle of Allah (pbuh) said to us: When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down.
Abu Dawud Book 036, Hadith Number 4764
AbuWa’il al-Qass said: We entered upon Urwah ibn Muhammad ibn as-Sa’di. A man spoke to him and made him angry. So he stood and performed ablution; he then returned and performed ablution, and said: My father told me on the authority of my grandfather Atiyyah who reported the Apostle of Allah (peace be upon him) as saying: Anger comes from the devil, the devil was created of fire, and fire is extinguished only with water; so when one of you becomes angry, he should perform ablution.
Sunan of Abu Dawood, Narrated Atiyyah as-Sa’di
“Nor do I absolve my own self (of blame): the (human) soul is certainly prone to evil, unless my Lord do bestow His Mercy: but surely my Lord is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful.”
(Surat Yūsuf (Joseph) 12:53)
When you don’t fight your Nafs, you become your own worse enemy, because you let shaitan (the cursed one) manipulate you through your Nafs- Ego- your evil self. Someone who let shaitan (the cursed one) manipulate him or her, will believe and do whatever evil thoughts comes to his or her mind, and he/she will listen to every whispering (waswas), so this person end up becoming a shaitan and living a life of total ruin.
The Quran give us a clear example how Cain (Qabil) listen to his evil self and murdered Abel(Habil):
The (selfish) soul of the other led him to the murder of his brother: he murdered him, and became (himself) one of the lost ones.
(Quran Al-Ma`idah 5:30)
A person who fights his Nafs-evil self overpower it, he doesn’t let bad thoughts from shaitan (the curse one) enter his mind and doesn’t inclined towards evil but does everything to please Allah (swt) and purify his heart, to be a better person. When a person who love and fear Allah(swt) is provoked to get Angry, this person remain calm and bring Allah (swt) in his heart and mind, and put his trust in Allah(swt) alone. Whoever have faith in Allah(swt) should avoid what is bad and do good and the believers of Allah must see and do good in everything.
The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) advise us and gave us the best examples from himself, on how to deal with many issues such as anger, the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) was not only provoked but mistreated many times in his life and he (Rasulullah) never got Angry, and never took any revenge on anyone, Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam showed us how to deal with people in the best manner, if we want to learn to be a better person we just have to look at Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) he was the best of people and had the best of character May Allah(swt) bless him.
In another hadith, Abu Hurairah related that the Messenger of Allah, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, said:
“A strong person is not the person who throws his adversaries to the ground. A strong person is the person who contains himself when he is angry.”
(Al-Bukhari; Book 47, No. 47.3.12)
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